Wednesday, February 5, 2014

20 things I learned in my 20's

I been thinking a lot lately. About life and the meaning of it all and I realized something. My twenties were all about learning about life and the way the world works. No so much about learning about myself. I feel like my thirties have really been more focused on learning about myself, as a person. Which is interesting because you always hear the cliche saying about your twenties being the time to find yourself. False. At least, that really hasn't been the case in my life.  I do not think of myself as wise, or smart, or any of that stuff. But, I do know that I've learned a few lessons in the last decade and I'd like to share with you ....

20 things
1. You don't know everything. In fact, you hardly know anything at all! Creation, God, and The Universe are far grander than any of us know. Than any of us are capable of even understanding. We are very limited beings and are ignorant of how the World works around us. We don't even know how our own bodies work! 
2. You cannot choose your family. But, you can choose your friends. Sometimes, Family is awesome and sometimes... they are not. If you must, learn to love and let go. Don't keep toxic relationships in your life.  
3. Family doesn't always mean blood. Enough said. 
4. Life seems hard. But, it doesn't have to be. Stop making every situation complicated. Are you addicted to drama? Life is only as good (or as bad) as you make it. So, is today going to be a good day? 
5. Adapt and Overcome. I learned this from my Father at a very young age, but it didn't really begin to take shape until I was out on my own. Learn to adapt and overcome any obstacle that enters your path. Don't become attached to any one given thing, person, or situation. And learn to love yourself. 
6. There is no "plateau". Stop saying "someday, I will __fill in the blank__". There will NEVER be a someday and there will NEVER be this perceived plateau. I'm not saying to stop making plans, but I am saying that you will not wake up one day and everything will be "perfect". Being human means always changing, growing, always evolving. Who you are and what you know at age 20 will most likely NOT be who you are and what you know when you're 30. I speak from experience. 
7. Follow your instinct. Follow your gut. Follow your intuition. And follow it now. Don't wait until it's to late. 
8. Time fly's. And the older you get, the faster it goes. Make a move, NOW!
9. Tomorrow never comes. So stop procrastinating and saying that you'll take care of it tomorrow. Because tomorrow, tomorrow will still be tomorrow. Please refer to #6.
10. There is always more than what meets the eye. Nothing, nothing, nothing is ever what it seems. Please, refer to number 1. From the people you meet, the things you see, hear, smell, taste, and touch. Nothing is what it seems. 
11. You are what you eat.
12. And don't forget to feed your soul. 
13. It's okay to ask for help. No need to be afraid. 
14. Don't also be in such a hurry. If you drive to fast, you'll forget to enjoy the ride...
15. Be present. Be here now. This moment, this one RIGHT's the only one you've got!
16. There isn't only one Yellow Brick Road. There are many routes to reach your destination. Do what feels right for you. 
17. Believe in something. And have faith in that belief. God, The Universe, The Higher Power, it is like the sun, you can feel it...and you know it's there. But, you can't gaze directly at it. It will light your path.....and it will be there for have some faith. TRUST.
18. Be grateful for EVERYTHING. That is all.
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19. Be careful what you wish for THINK ABOUT. One thing I know for sure is that our thoughts become our words....our words become our actions....our actions become our habits....our habits become our days...and our days become our lives....So, be careful what it is that you think about. 
20. Wealth doesn't always mean money and money doesn't always mean happiness. When you're on your death bed, you will not be patting yourself on the back because you owned a Bentley. Rather, you will be thinking about your relationships with others, how you treated the people you cared about, how you spent your time, your money, and your efforts. The things you really enjoyed. The things that really matter.

To follow up #20, I feel like Brandi Carlile's song, "That wasn't me" perfectly sums it up. Please, listen..and enjoy.  -Ruth-

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At February 5, 2014 at 10:36 AM , Anonymous Charlotte said...

I LOVE this. Thank you for this lovely inspirational post! Just what I needed to read right now! :)

At February 5, 2014 at 6:07 PM , Anonymous Alli Maxwell said...

Wow, this is all great stuff. Number 1, 12 and of course 18 are my personal favs. I'll definitely be sharing this!

At February 6, 2014 at 10:39 AM , Anonymous Kade said...

This is so great! These are the kinds of things I think I need to keep in mind in my life! Thank you so much for sharing!
The one that hit me the most was #2 You can't choose your family. I really needed that reminder that you need to love them but at the same time you may need to keep some distance. Plus I think with gods help I think he can help with those relationships. I know of this this post that is so sweet and loving about someone going through a really hard relationship in her life and coming to terms with it. Its

I would love to hear what you think?

At February 10, 2014 at 9:40 PM , Anonymous Emma Kate said...

I loved reading this post! Numbers 4, 6 and 16 have to be my favorites. I love that you were able to look back at this time in your life and pull out all of these bits of wisdom. Being in my 20s, people are always telling me that I need to pay attention to the here and now and that I will never know what life has in store for me. Reading things like this really remind me to open my eyes and to soak up this season in my life.

At February 12, 2014 at 11:13 AM , Anonymous RuthLoiacano said...

So glad I could help!

At February 12, 2014 at 11:14 AM , Anonymous RuthLoiacano said...

Thanks Alli! 18 is my favorite too! I think it's the key to success and happiness!

At February 12, 2014 at 11:16 AM , Anonymous RuthLoiacano said...

Emma, it's so true! The now is all we have...We are not promised a tomorrow.


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